One mother-of-3 who lived with her transgender husband during his transition from a woman to a man said that even though she is married, she identified as a lesbian.
Chelsea Lat (38), a paralegal from New Hampton, New York had been married for four years to Chris Lat (39) when she became transgender.
The couple decided to stay together and attended therapy. They also watched YouTube videos from people who were in the same position as them and discussed the effects on their relationship. Finally, they realized that their love was ‘transcended gender’.
Chelsea has one child and Chris shares two. She said that one of her main obstacles was how being with a man could affect her sexuality. However, she said she is still a lesbian. Her husband, however, is the exception.
Chelsea Lat is a 38-year-old paralegal living in New Hampton. She had been married to Chris Lat for four years before she was made transgender. Chris, before she went transgender.
Chris and Chelsea were pictured together following Chris’s transformation.
Chelsea and her two children, both from an earlier marriage, were open to Chris’s change, while Dyleena, the middle child, was eager to find out more about Chris’s procedures. Photo of the couple at the swimming pool with their families
She shared that she was unable to understand why he had made such a drastic change in his sexuality.
“But after he communicated, and once we had started talking with each other about our expectations, and our hopes for the future, it made things easier to digest, go along and support him.
“Chris felt secure, but was still trying to accept me as a lesbian. He knows that outside our relationship I would have been with a woman.
Our relationship is always very good received. But, this TikTok was the first time that I have faced so much criticism for identifying myself as a lesbian. He’s not the only exception to my interest in females.
Chris and Chelsea at their wedding before Chris’s transition. They shared their stories online because they wanted to demonstrate that love transcends gender.
Chris struggled with his gender identity before coming out to Chelsea. He never knew the right language for identification. Pictured: A Pregnant Chelsea with Chris prior to his transition
Chris called himself a “hybrid” before he realized he was transgender. He didn’t know the language of his identity. Chris before his transition, with Carter as a young Carter
Carter was Carter’s baby during Chris’ transition. The only thing she knew was that he wouldn’t be able to pick Carter up from his top surgery.
Chris struggled with his gender identity since childhood and had never been able to find the right language for him to identify.
Chris said, “I felt trapped in two worlds. And I wanted to be on the one side.”
It was like I had unloaded my fears and paranoias to Chelsea, as I was already going through it.
“Before I called myself a hybrid, because I didn’t know the language to describe who I was. I could not identify as female. Although I was raised female, I also had female experiences and did female things.
To help themselves adjust to their new reality, the couple watched YouTube videos. The couple, in their bedroom.
People argue that Chelsea has changed her mind about lesbians, but she is certain that she still loves Chris and would prefer to be with a woman. Photo of the couple together
They were married for four years and then had their third child together, Carter. Chris after his transition
Children of the couple also quickly adapted to the change of pronouns as well as the name changes.
‘I wasn’t the pretty little girl. I was not an independent woman. This wasn’t my world and didn’t suit me. That was the option that I loved, so I decided to make it my own.
Chelsea and her two children, both from an earlier marriage, were open to Chris’s change, while Dyleena, her middle child, was eager to find out more about Chris’s procedures.
Chelsea shared that she was pleased with the way her children received it. Dyleena, who was my middle child, felt more connected to Dyleena from the very beginning. She wanted to find out everything.
Chelsea initially was concerned about Chris’s changes in her sexuality. However, once Chris had started communicating with her and began talking about his expectations and hopes for the future, things became easier.
“She would sit and watch surgeries to see what Chris went through.
“They also picked up really quickly the changing of pronouns as well as the changing of names. It was quite impressive.
“Our Carter child was so young that she didn’t recognize any difference in him when he could not pick her up. That was after he’d had top surgery, which was still being performed.
“The goal of posting our story was not to prove that love is a binary thing, but that it transcends gender.
Although the couple is often very happy together, one TikTok viral saw Chelsea get backlash after she still identified as a lesbian. Photo of the couple and their family
Chelsea refers to her identity as lesbian and says that it is her truth, which she wouldn’t force on anyone else. After Chris was gone, this is the couple.
Middle child Dyleena (back) was naturally more attached to him from the beginning, so she wanted to know everything about Chris’s transition