After revealing her plans to exclude all 70-year-old guests from her wedding, a bride received a lot of backlash.
The woman, thought to be from the US, took to Reddit and asked if she was the a*****e for not wanting to invite any elderly guests, including her and her fiancé’s grandparents.
She revealed that her fiancé’s grandmother has Alzheimers’ Disease, which she described as ‘really depressing’ and that her own elderly relatives need a lot of help and attention.
Reddit users condemned the post widely, claiming that the bride was selfish. However, a few people commented that the post was not different than banning children from weddings.
The woman, thought to be from the US, took to Reddit and asked if she was the a*****e for not wanting to invite any elderly guests, including her and her fiancé’s grandparents
This post claims that the bride doesn’t want unwell and elderly relatives to take the spotlight on her wedding
It said, “Making a difference.”y fiancé and I decided that we don’t want anyone over 70 at the wedding and are making a blanket rule so it’s fair to everyone.
“I don’t want anything to disrupt our wedding day. His grandma or grandpa should not be making loud noises during the ceremony. I do not want them being distracting from the ceremony. I also don’t think people will pay as much attention to the couple and their wedding.
‘So my fiancé and I decided that we don’t want anyone over 70 at the wedding and are making a blanket rule so it’s fair to everyone.
I think that they’d feel bored at home, which would make them more content. It’s also a great opportunity for their caregivers and family members to relax and enjoy the evening without being responsible for caregiving. My fiancé is on board but the rest of my family is upset. AITA?’
A majority of respondents criticised the poster for being unkind to her elderly family members. One responded, “Jesus Christ, you’ve got to be kidding.” Your behavior is the worst. YTA [you’re the a******].’
Many people responded to this post, horrified at the thought that an elderly relative would be banned from attending a family wedding.
One more: “For real. YTA Op. You can opt. And I’d implore my other family members to do the same.’
A third wrote: ‘ This isn’t you caring about their feelings over the look of the thing, this is you caring about the look of the thing over anyone’s feelings. It’s likely your grandparents would be devastated if they didn’t have them.
“Being 70 or older isn’t the same as being 10 or under – you cannot exclude anyone just because they can’t do the chacha slide. It is going to hurt and offend a lot.
Redditors believed that, just as it was acceptable to dismiss people because they are young, so should it be for people who are old.
Some commentators however disagreed with this view and believed it fair to exclude elderly people on the grounds that often children are excluded from weddings.
One poster wrote: ‘I don’t see how this is different from having a child-free wedding because children are disruptive. It’s a strange idea, but NTA is what I think.
Another one agreed with the statement: “NTA. This sub is all for child free weddings but apparently aren’t on board with excluding other ages. It’s your wedding and you’re allowed to invite whoever you want. It’s understandable not to want people around that might be distracting. Especially his grandmother that won’t even remember it.’
One poster added: “I love the way everyone accepts child-free marriages. However, if they add an upper age limit to that number and it becomes a problem for them.” You can do whatever you like, but it’s your wedding. Don’t be surprised when people aren’t there.
Many commentators believed the post wasn’t genuine and was an attempt to point out the dangers of childless weddings.
Many respondents thought the post was fake and some suggested that it might be a point-making attempt by the poster.
One said, “This is 100% somebody gathering fodder to the next argument about child-free marriages.” Look at the description of the elderly relatives used by OP… These are all reasons that people don’t want children attending their weddings. I think OP didn’t leave anything out.
Another person also agreed with me, saying: ‘That is my thought. This is a way for them to argue that if they can’t ban older people from their weddings then no child-free marriages should be permitted.
Another said, “This was what I thought (hopeing) too!” What is the point of being so heartless? This would be anyone from my family. No one would ever treat my loved ones that way. Shame on OP. Totally YTA.