After calling her daughter-in law fat and asking for her small clothes, a mother-inlaw was called ‘abusive and horrible’.
Posting on the British parenting site Mumsnet, the unnamed woman detailed how her mother-in-law had insulted her, and to make matters worse she received no support from her husband.
The size 12 woman explained that her mother-in-law had branded her ‘so fat’ and claimed that there’s no hope of her losing her baby weight now that her child is two-years-old, and that she should hand over her ‘These are really beautiful dresses, and I won’t be able to wear them again.”
Some commenters expressed outrage and suggested that the woman should set limits to prevent her mother-in law from being abusive. Others said that her husband needed to be more supportive.
Mumsnet’s parenting forum Mumsnet received support from a poster who wrote about the fat-shaming of her mother-in law (not shown).
A poster showed her that she had been insulted by her mother in law and has no boundaries when it came to the possessions of others.
Explaining the situation, the woman said that her mother-in-law had given her some dresses when she got married, in accordance with family tradition.
“She would like to gift a few to my sister in law. I politely told mother-in-law I will lose the weight it’s just I haven’t really tried. Her response was “No you won’t. Your child is almost two years old now, and you are still obese.”
Upset, the woman spoke to her husband who said his mother was ‘right’ and there’s ‘no point keeping clothes you can’t wear anymore’.
‘My sisters think it’s hilarious of her asking and my husband is not supportive. These are my clothes, and it’s weird to give them away because I know I won’t fit in them.
A new update was added to this post: “She has no boundaries, she will not have problem opening mine wardrobes.
‘She once complained she was trying to open a suitcase in my wardrobe but couldn’t as I locked it! She is the worst woman I have ever met. Over the years, I’ve tried my best to find the good in her. It is horrible.
Numerous commentators agreed that the poster needed to place more boundaries and assert herself more when dealing with her mother-in law.
Mumsnetters felt it was necessary to assert the poster and place boundaries.
One commented, “I think that you’re going to need to be more assertive!” Your mother in law sees herself as a matriarch. This means that she believes she can say and do whatever she wants. However, if she doesn’t take it up she will keep doing this until the end.
“Personallly, I wouldn’t give the dresses to her as I didn’t want to wear them. Even if she does eventually make me fit in them, she’ll still criticize and be mean. She will try her hardest to make you uncomfortable.
Another added: ‘People like your mother-in-law understand one language only and it’s blunt and it’s firm. Don’t lower yourself to her level but politely, firmly, tell her to mind her own f****** business. You can say things like that to get away with it.
Another wrote, “She doesn’t have any boundaries so it’s important to keep some.”
Her mother-in-law was the target of harsh criticism. Some commentators even called her abusive behavior.
Her mother-in-law was the subject of universal condemnation, one commentator calling her an ‘abusive.
They wrote: ‘Abusive relationships aren’t always just husband and wife. The way she is treating you isn’t right. She could come to your home and steal your belongings. I’d call the police. Could you please get a lock to protect them/your bedroom door? It sounds like your husband is equally horrible. What’s your relationship with him like in general?’
Another agreed, writing: ‘She’s abusive and your husband is a mummy’s boy.’
The third said, “This terrible hag shouldn’t have a key for your house.”
Many commentators believed that the husband of the poster was as evil, if not worse than his mother-in law. He failed to stand up for his wife.
Some posters weren’t as pleased with the answer of the husband.
One said, “You can lose the deadweight from your husband who doesn’t stand for you or his MIL.” You might find it helpful to know that I lost two sizes more than you after my pregnancy. It is back to my size before having my second baby, who is in 6th-form. I also know I can lose even more.
One added, “Awful treatment. No wonder you feel down.” Why isn’t your husband standing up for you and telling his mum how her treatment is upsetting you? Personally, I wouldn’t have a family member in my home that treated me in such a way. You are best.
A third added: ‘Ugh mother-in-law sounds awful but I also think your husband is the one that needs to wise up and realise you won’t put up with disloyalty. That sounds horrible. I would suspect that her insane actions are supported by your husband, which is bad for you.
Many posters pointed out the fact that it doesn’t really matter how big the poster is – the problem is not the size of the mother-in law.