An elderly hospice nurse revealed the most typical things people tell each other right before their death.
Julie McFadden is a Los Angeles-based registered nurse. She said that her patients tell her they often see loved ones that have passed away in the final hours. They also tell her, “We’re coming for you soon” or “Don’t worry. We’ll be there to help you.”
Julie spent more than 10 years as an ICU nurse and has now worked for hospice care since 2005. Under the hashtag @hospicenursejulie she recently began sharing her knowledge on TikTok and has accumulated more than 430,000 likes and 3.6million followers.
Hospice care is an aspect of hospice care. It aims to help terminally ill patients with pain relief and their spiritual well-being at the end.
Julie, who is frequently around death because of her work, has set out to dispel some myths about what happens when people die.
An hospice nurse revealed the most commonly said and done things right before death.
Julie McFadden is a Registered Nurse from Los Angeles. She said that her patients tell her often they can see loved ones who are already gone right before their death.
It happens so frequently that patients are given it as a ‘educational booklet’. She couldn’t however explain how it happened.
According to the nurse it’s quite common for dying patients see their ‘dead relatives or dead friends’ in the final weeks of life.
They put it in their education packets, which they send to patients and their families. However, she said that it is so common that it occurs all the time.
“This occurs so frequently that we have it written in our education packets, which we then give to patients and their families so that they can understand the situation. She said that she doesn’t understand why this happens or how to explain it.
“It typically happens about a month before the patient is diagnosed with cancer. The patient may start to see their deceased relatives, friends and pets who are gone – angels, spirits or ghosts – that they can contact.
They can only hear and see them. They can sometimes see and hear them in dreams, but they may also be able to physically see them. Sometimes they will ask us, “Does this make you see my vision?”
Julie said that although patients are not usually afraid of it, they actually feel very at ease with the treatment.
She continued: “They don’t usually fear, it’s usually very comfortable to them, and they say they’re sending messages like “We’re coming up to get you soon” or, “Don’t worry, they’ll help you.”
“Most people like this. They’re comforted and it’s not frightening to them. It happens every day, and we don’t know how to explain it.
Julie claimed that the patients are “usually not afraid” but that they feel very comfortable with it. Julie also stated that loved ones who died in their place told them to relax and tell them that, “Don’t worry, I’ll be there for you.”
Also, she revealed that the most popular thing that people say before dying is “I love you” and that many of them call their parents to express this.
This woman has been working in hospice care since 2005. Recently, she started to share her experience and knowledge on TikTok as @hospicenursejulie
Julie said she did not believe it was a hallucination when asked by a person if they thought so. Patients are usually ‘pretty aware and oriented’.
She continued, “I don’t understand what it’s about,” she said. It doesn’t look like a hallucination because people who say this are often very alert and oriented. They’re also usually quite lucid.
It’s not as if they are saying crazy things that make no sense. They tend to be functional and logical.
“I have experienced hallucinations, but what are we talking about? But, I’m not sure.
Additionally, she revealed that the most frequent thing that people say before dying is “I love you” and that many of them call their parents.
This woman wanted everyone to understand that death doesn’t usually cause pain. She instead called it an ‘easy and natural’ process, since our bodies are designed to die.
“Our bodies were designed to live beyond birth. They are also built to die.” Hospice is a natural dying process in which the person on hospice knows what to do.
“The body will begin to kick in the regular mechanisms that it has when it is near death. The body will cease eating, drinking and sleep much more.
“The body began to prepare itself for death and help people have more natural, peaceful deaths.”
Her observation was that, although certain diseases can cause pain and discomfort, the death of a loved one is not normal.
She said that there were certain illnesses that are causing people to die that could cause discomfort and pain. Hospice providers can help alleviate those symptoms.
But that is from the disease. It’s not due to death. Time and again, we have seen that natural death is more peaceful if you don’t interfere with it.
People believe death means pain. They also think dying is painful. This is false. It is possible to be suffering from a painful or even fatal disease. The actual process of death itself isn’t painful.
Although death does not normally feel painful for most people, the nurse wanted them to understand that it is a natural and peaceful process.
Although there may be certain conditions that cause pain and discomfort, she noted that death does not usually bring about any harm since the ‘body was built to die.
Her explanation was that changes in breathing and skin color are all normal before one dies.
Additionally, she revealed four common things that can happen just before someone dies: changes in breathing and skin color. Terminal secretions are also common.
Her explanation was that when you’re actively dying (which is about a few hours to a few days before someone’s death), your body may sometimes lose its ability of maintaining its core temperature. It is possible to get very cold or extremely hot by spiking a fever.
“Breathing patterns can change in the active dying phase. This is typically a couple of hours to a couple days before death.
“Most families believe this means that something is wrong. But nine out of ten times it’s not.”
Julie spoke to The Sun about her favorite part of her job, and how she plans to continue to educate families and patients on death through TikTok videos.
“The best part of my job is teaching patients and their families about death, dying, as well supporting them physically and emotionally,” she stated.
“As a hospice nurse, it is also my job to help them understand what to expect.
“I would like to make death less common by teaching people more about it. My family was home, so I returned to my hometown. However, my nieces (tweens) were dancing on TikTok.
“I went to TikTok later to watch their dances. I was inspired to create my own TikTok for death and dying. This led me to the idea that it would take off four days later.