Tarryn, 35, (pictured) is a programme management consultant, who has been single for 14 years

Tarryn, aged 35 (pictured), is a programme manager consultant. She has been single 14 years.


The Past of Dating

In my 20s, I had my first and only serious relationship. The relationship ended badly, and it left me feeling scarred. I avoided relationships and began dating again. Take a moment.


One person for fourteen years. No children.


Programme management consultant.


Looking for serious relationships with a genuine man who is open-minded and outgoing. Being single for so long means I’m not looking for someone who wants us to be glued at the hip.

Since I was 14 years old, I moved to London from South Africa. While I did have some dates, my main focus has been my career, and the purchase of my home. Dating apps aren’t for me — most people either vastly misrepresent themselves or are only looking for a good time. I’m now at the stage of wanting to find someone to spend my life with.

Pre-Date Nerves?

A little, especially as I’ve never been on a blind date. I’m generally comfortable in my own skin, but I tend to rattle on and don’t have an off switch when I’m nervous.

First Impressions

Jonathan was dressed beautifully in a dark suit. As he was seated with his back towards me when I arrived, he didn’t get a chance to get up and greet me, so we just said hello instead.

It’s easy to talk with?

For the main meal, we both chose steak. Jonathan enjoys wine and is knowledgeable about it but, as I’m South African, he insisted I select the bottle. We enjoyed a wonderful chenin blanc white wine from Stellenbosch.

It wasn’t just the usual banal chat — it was stimulating 

Jonathan’s family is originally from Nigeria. He was a physician. The fact that we both were born in Africa and moved to the UK was what brought us together. We also discovered we’d each lost a parent and agreed it has shaped our outlook on life. It wasn’t the usual first date banal chat. It was stimulating and intellectual.


LIKED? A great experience.

REGRETS? I hate being photographed!

COFFEE, CAB or CAB? Enjoy coffee with your friends.

What are embarrassing moments?

Not that I know of.

Sparks Fly

Jonathan wanted to know if there was a way we could swap numbers. But while I liked him, I didn’t feel any chemistry. So when he called the following day, I told him I’d be happy to stay in touch, but on a platonic basis. He took it quite well — it was a very mature exchange.

Seen him again?

I’m open to it, but can’t right now as I’m juggling moving house.

You think that he was thinking of you.

He told me that I’m a nice and honest person. He’s given me the confidence to start dating again.

Are your friends likely to like him?

Yes. Jonathan would fit into any social circle, as he’s intelligent and a nice guy.

Jonathan, 35, (pictured) is a doctor and university lecturer, who has been single for two years

Jonathan, age 35 (pictured), is a university lecturer and doctor who was previously single for 2 years. 


The Past of Dating

I’ve had a couple of two-year relationships, but nothing that led to marriage. I’m open-minded and happy to adjust my priorities and interests for the right person.

While I have been dating, I’ve never met anyone with whom I have chemistry.


For two years you are single, and no children.


Both a doctor and a university lecturer.


An intelligent, slim and well-informed woman. People who view life as a struggle are not my friends.


Dating apps are a disaster zone and not an efficient use of my time — I worry about catfishing [when fraudsters steal another person’s picture to use in a fake online account] and I can’t tell from an image if I will like someone.

Pre-Date Nerves?

Generally I don’t get nervous. As an academic, I’ve analysed the statistics of blind date success, and I know most people who do them don’t see one another again. This was why I approached it open-minded.

For me, the trick to feeling comfortable on a date is to ensure it doesn’t feel like a job interview.

Your First Impressions

Tarryn was on her way and I arrived early. A blue, long-sleeved gown with heels and a necklace made her look professional. She’s good-looking.

It’s easy to talk with?

When Tarryn told me she thinks she’s still single because she likes to control things, I think she meant she’s a perfectionist. In my experience, women who like this strategy are more likely to get into relationships that end in disaster.

She said that she loved to control everything and I was nervous. 


LIKED? She’s smart and a good conversationalist.



However, we found that we had a lot of things in common. Tarryn enjoys reading, particularly science fiction author Isaac Asimov, and we also both enjoyed Jeffrey Archer’s Kane And Abel. Both of us grew up in Africa.

What are embarrassing moments?

All went well.

Sparks Fly

Intellectually we’re a good match. Tarryn said she’d like to stay friends. It was all fine by me.

Do you want to see her again?

I’m happy to see her on a non-romantic level. I’m grateful she was clear there isn’t any romance as that took off the pressure.

How do you imagine her thinking of you?

Tarryn probably thinks I’m deep. My analytical tendencies are strong. Hopefully she’ll think I’m open-minded for an academic person.

Are your friends likely to like her?

Yes, they should. Tarryn is a great company.

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