According to a psychologist, self-limiting beliefs can cause you to lose your love life.
Gabby Goodier from Perth, WA warns that feelings of worthlessness may lead to unhealthy relationships. This is because your subconsciously attracts partners who are ‘just not that into you.’ Reinforcing a negative self-image.
The Sage Society, the founder of the mental health hub, says that you may be experiencing this limitation belief if your partner is constantly critical and dismissive, unable or unwilling to make a commitment to you and doesn’t want to get to know you well.
Psychologist Gabby Goodier (pictured) warns feelings of worthlessness can lead to toxic relationships because you are attracted to partners who ‘just aren’t that into you’
You may also be looking for one-sided relationships to earn the love of your partner, avoiding long, intimate liaisons and avoidance of dating.
Jeffrey Young, an American psychologist who has been credited with developing schema therapy (a method that treats self-destructive emotional patterns learned as a child), supports Ms. Goodier’s assertions.
A pioneering psychotherapist once said that people who think they’re worthless are most attracted to those who critique and reject them. It reinforces their feelings of depravity.
Young stated that critical partners can feel like they are familiar to self-loathing people who have deep-rooted self-loathing. This is because they repeat what they were taught as children.
Ms. Goodier gave advice earlier in the year to those who were left to recover from a broken relationship. She shared five healthy ways of handling a split.
Her belief is that the ending of a relationship makes it the right time for an emotional detox. She suggests that positive thoughts and emotions are rewired in the brain to help with this process.
This can be achieved by being around friends and loved ones, getting more exercise, and avoiding the use of social media.
You believe you are worthless if you date someone.
* You are drawn to partners who criticise and belittle you
* You are most attracted to partners who are ‘just not that into you’
* You pursue relationships with the hope you can earn their love
* You feel at home with partners who are emotionally unavailable or have no desire to get to know you on a deeper level
* You are attracted to partners who are unable to commit to you or spend time with you regularly
* You avoid dating altogether or have a series of short, intense relationships
Gabby Goodier (psychologist) says it is possible to feel worthless when you find yourself drawn to people who make fun of and degrade you.
Ms. Goodier suggests ‘hiding’ your ex or deleting them from your accounts. Research has proven that an emotionally broken brain can be just as addictive as one suffering cocaine withdrawal.
According to her, ‘More interaction, even just by seeing someone’s face, can make cravings stronger.
Ms. Goodier advises that alcohol consumption be reduced or avoided altogether. Instead, she recommends developing healthy lifestyle habits like exercise, eight-hour sleep, and balanced diet.
“After a breakup, the reason it is so difficult is because your brain’s neurons fire differently,” she explained.
The reason is that your “love cocktail” – dopamine and oxytocin, which are more abundant when you’re in love – has been removed and replaced by the stress hormone cortisol.
Ms. Goodier suggests that you surround yourself with your closest friends and family during the aftermath of a split (stock photo).
She said that spending time with those you love and getting sunlight on your skin will boost your brain’s production of the good chemicals it craves.
Thank you to Ms. Goodier for sharing her tips on Instagram.
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They are the ones who decide what happens next. People don’t always speak or react to you.