Unidentified bride is branded “heartless, selfish” after a dispute with her maid. She was forced to cancel the wedding due to open-heart surgery.
The maid of honor, thought to be from the US, shared the story on Reddit and asked whether ‘she was the a*****e’ for missing her friend’s wedding.
Her husband suffered a cardiac arrest two days prior to her wedding. He would require emergency surgery just before the ceremony. Doctors warned the maid-of-honor that he could die at any moment.
The maid-of-honor told her friend. But the bride’s initial reaction was to tell her friend: “Just make sure that it doesn’t interfere with the wedding, that’s all.” We are sorry that Ben (my husband) is not able to be there, but you will have me and I can have food and drinks for you both haha.

One bride was criticized for not attending the wedding and staying with her husband, who had a heart attack. Stock photo



Reddit poster anonymously explained to her husband that she needed urgent open-heart surgery. So, she chose not to attend her best friend’s wedding but to remain by her side.
“That was when I said to her that I wouldn’t be coming to the wedding regardless of my husband’s recovery. I have to take care of him, and I’d like to stay there until we’re all sure.
Although she said that she understood the situation, she added that she was MOH and had a duty. She couldn’t miss a single day of the wedding.
The MOH attempted video calling the bride on the day of her wedding. She didn’t answer the call as she was too busy getting ready. After all calls and texts have been unanswered, she learned that some bridesmaids felt let down by the MOH and didn’t want to expect to hear back from her anytime soon.
Adding that her friend is ‘usually a sweetheart’, the poster asked if she was the a****** in this situation.






Reddit users overwhelmingly felt that the bride acted very badly and labeled her as’selfish’ or ‘horrible’.
Reddit users seemed to be almost unanimously in support of the poster. One user wrote: “I’m sorry that I have to write this,” but your “best buddy” is an awful human being. You are completely wrong about her self-centredness and entitlement.
Another person agreed and wrote: “Pretty obvious to me that my bride is the AH. A major surgery, heart surgery is one. It is natural to want to stay by your husband’s side. You will find her very self-centered. It would be a mistake to try and contact her. Because she’s not a true friend, you shouldn’t be able to rely on her as a friend.
A commentator wrote, “WHAT?!?” Chloe is perhaps too self-absorbed? Maybe the stress of the wedding got to her and she’ll soon realise how out of one she was in assuming for one second you’d still be able to make it to her wedding.’





Many observers felt that the expectations of the bride regarding her maid o’ honor leaving her sick husband at weddings suggested her inability to understand marriage.
Other people suggested that the bride wasn’t able to understand marriage. Another said that it was insane she demanded that you forsake all your vows to your spouse on the very day she would make them to her husband. This makes me wonder what she knows about marriage.
Another person agreed with the statement, saying: ‘I wonder whether the friend’s husband realizes that his wife would be happy to leave him alone when it’s critically ill so she could go on a party.
Another wrote “That was my thought.” The bride clearly doesn’t understand what marriage is truly about.’




Some individuals who commented on the post suggested that the bride might get more time to establish a friendship.
Others were more understanding and suggested that the poster contact the bride again.
One said: “Regarding speaking to you on the day of- she’s busy!” You may wish her all the best, but she wasn’t likely to be available for phone calls that day. I’m sure I would not. It’s rare for a situation to be so serious as to disrupt wedding planning or the honeymoon. Let it settle down for a while, then contact her again. Send a note.
Another commentator suggested that the bride might later relax, writing “Whatever happened, was out of your control. You did what you thought necessary.” NTA I hope Chloe is able to come around. I hope your husband is doing well. He’s getting stronger each day.
Another said, “NTA. She was probably so excited about her day that it wasn’t clear in her mind.” You’ve been through a lot, and I would give you a little more time.