Paulina porizkova spoke out about Ric Ocasek, her husband of ten years. She said that he had a ‘obsession’ with her during her marriage and dictated what clothes she should wear.
Intimate details of their marriage were shared by the supermodel at 56 on the latest episode The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet, a podcast that reflects on how Amanda fell for The Cars’ frontman during his peak fame.
Porizkova was just 19 years old when she first met Ocasek in 1984 on the sets of the music videos for their hit single ‘Drive. He was 45 and she was 24 when they got married.
De Cadenet told her that she thought his love was love. But for him it was more like an obsession. It felt like the greatest love, because he was obsessive with me.
“Like he didn’t want me doing anything. He did not want me to travel anywhere. He desired me to stay within his circle of friends at all times. His soul-emotional provider, I misunderstood that as love.

Candid: Paulina Pouzikova, 56 shared intimate details about their marriage with Ric Ocasek in the latest episode on The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet.


Porizkova spoke out to De Cadenet about Ocasek’s obsession with her. De Cadenet misinterpret that as love.

Memories: ‘He took me under his wing, he told me what to wear, he told me what to do,’ she recalled. “I complied with his wishes as I was afraid of losing my love.”
She said, “I believed that this was what love was,” and added, “to be kind of this precious object you will not let go of your sight.”
Porizkova compared Ocasek to the Greek mythological character Pygmalion, a One sculptor was so infatuated with a statue he had made.
He took me under his wing and told me what I should wear. I complied with his requests because it would have been risky to lose his love. His love was more important than my career, friends, or whatever else I desired to do or read.
“Of course, he is the most important person in my life. Therefore, I do everything he wants for many, many decades. When I didn’t do it anymore, things got difficult.
Porizkova stated that Porizkova would grow up and seek her own path, as she was only 19 at the time she met. But it was an ‘off’ for her husband.
She stated, “I was unaware for quite a while that when you’re a valued possession and not a loved person, then you don’t have the opportunity to change or grow. I don’t think you get to age.” Your usefulness is very limited. It is necessary to become the obsession with someone.
The model, who was born in Czechoslovakia, explained that the controlling aspects of her relationship didn’t match her upbringing in Sweden, where there was no question that women were equal to men.
‘It was a collective thing that just stuck with me forever, and I still feel that way, which, of course, is remarkable then that me, self-proclaimed feminist, goes and marries a guy who tells her how to dress,’ she said.

Memories: Porizkova was only 19 when she met Ocasek on the set of the music video for The Cars’ hit ‘Drive’ in 1984. They married five years later when she was 24 and he was 45

Back in the day. Ocasek, pictured in 1986 (pictured by the supermodel) was famous at that time and Ocasek had a lot of attention.

Mythology. Porizkova has compared Ocasek, shown together in 1990 with Ocasek, to Pygmalion the Greek mythological figure. This was after a sculptor fell in love a sculpture he had carved.
When she was asked about her reconciliation with the decision she made to continue in this type of marriage, she said it was not difficult because she had decided to do it.
“It’s like something I desperately wanted. That was what I desired. That kind of love was what I desired. He gave me everything I needed, which I kept for many many years,” she said.
“There was an area of my life that I did not get to make the films I wanted and didn’t have the career I desired, but what I had was what I considered the most important thing, love.
Porizkova said that Ocasek was an excellent father to his sons Jonathan, 28 and Oliver, 23. This was in contrast with Ocasek’s previous marriages.
“By the time we got married, he’d already had four kids, so he probably didn’t do the greatest job with those four,” she stated. “And I believe he believed that our children were his extension and that they could be an extension and extension of himself and me. Therefore, those were the children he would do well with. He did.
Porizkova stated that she had ‘put all’ into her marital relationship and that she wouldn’t give up on it even if he wanted to communicate more with her.
“I would stay married to my husband for ever, even though things weren’t great, with him wanting separate bedrooms, and with me not paying too much attention,’ she said.
“I needed him to speak to me. He had to be able communicate with me and say, “You know what, I still love your.” I asked him, “Is that health related?” “Why don’t I want you anymore?”

Difficult to Find: Porizkova claimed that eventually she grew up, and she tried to figure her own path, given her age of 19 at the time she met Ocasek (pictured here in 1996) but this was not an easy decision for her husband.

It was difficult to manage: Porizkova, pictured in 2003, stressed that Porizkova had ‘put everything into’ her marriage and would not have abandoned it if she could have communicated more with him.

Family: Ocasek, the mother of two, was noted by his sons Jonathan, 28 and Oliver, 23 as a loving father. He wasn’t like his two other children, from his two previous marriages.
Ocasek replied by telling Ocasek that she was “too miserable” and then asking, “Why can’t I just be happy?”
“That’s not communicating. It’s not speaking. It’s not communicating with each other. He just wanted me smile and to leave him alone.
Porizkova stated that she loved Ocasek unconditionally and could not imagine a life without him. This was even after they separated quietly in 2017, nearly thirty years later.
“I was saying to myself, “Look, you’re right, I want you to know that I am close to me. When you have a problem, I will be there to assist you. Let’s share our apartments, so kids can choose. Let’s not forget family vacations and family Christmas. She recalled, “Let’s keep sharing all.”
Porizkova stated that Ocasek had only left her because she was unable to ‘deal avec feeling so lonely, unwelcome as a women’ and she felt it made her feel ‘too sad.
“I assumed he was aboard. He was actually onboard, I thought. That’s where I am a little naïve because I thought that he wanted the same thing.’
She was going through a separation and was in the middle of a divorce. In September 2019, she discovered him dead at their Manhattan apartment for $10 million.
She found out the next day that he had removed her from his will, just weeks prior, and claimed she had “abandoned” him. She was left without money, even her earnings.

Loss: Porizkova, who has been candid with her grief on line, was in the process of divorcing Ocasek when she found him dead in their Manhattan townhouse in September 2019 at age 75

Porizkova, who now wears and does whatever she wants, learned Ocasek had cut her out of his will. He gave her one-third of the assets and she settled with him.

Back to dating: Porizkova’s first public relationship following Ocasek’s death was with screenwriter-director Aaron Sorkin, whom she attended the Oscars with last spring
His will also included the two oldest sons of Constance Campbell’s first marriage, Chris Otcask and Adam Otcask.
“I believed he was really a great man. He is complicated but a good one. De Cadenet told her that she believed more than anything that he also loved me. “Despite him not wanting to be married, I believed he loved me as much as I loved him. And that is where I may have gone wrong.
Porizkova said that she was going through a separation at the time and although she did not expect him to give her all, she believed she would at least have half of his estate.
“The fact that he wanted to me get nothing was quite shocking. [and]She said that the experience was “heartbreaking” and added: “It completely destroyed my entire world, everything I had known.”
It’s betrayal. This is a betrayal, of trust and love that I have put in him over many years. It’s not possible to know what drove him to do it.
Porizkova claims that Ocasek altered his will just three weeks before his death. He would have made it right if he was alive, she likes to believe.
She announced last month that she reached an agreement with her husband’s estate. According to New York state law she will receive what she owes. This was one-third Ocaseks assets.
She said that she hoped it wasn’t his decision to do so. He may have intended to harm me but he might not have done it.
Porizkova’s first public relationship following Ocasek’s death was with screenwriter-director Aaron Sorkin, whom she attended the Oscars with last spring. It was revealed later that it was actually their second date.
The model announced their split on Instagram in July after roughly three months together, and she has since rejoined the dating app Hinge.