One mother was stalked by her ex-boyfriend for several months. She has now revealed that he harassed her via texts, camped out outside of her home and threatened to harm her child.
Sabrina, a recruitment consultant from Hampshire was subject to three-year-long harassment by abusive texts and images via a hidden phone number. She was filmed by her stalker and told that she knew the address of her daughter’s school.
“Most nights, around 9pm,” I’d get a message. She explained this on BBC documentary Stacey Dooley : Stalkers. This aired last evening.
I was alone, living with my baby girl. All messages were “I’m going ruin your life”. Oder “you should dump your car in the central reservation, because nobody will ever miss you”, implying that my daughter would do better without me.
Sabrina eventually discovered the stalker by looking at CCTV footage taken from a nearby pub. She was her ex-boyfriend, who Sabrina thought was a “lovely” man, and had lived with Sabrina for one year.
Terrorized: Sabrina (a recruitment consultant from Hampshire) was repeatedly bombarded by abusive messages and photos for the past three years. She was filmed by her stalker and told that her stalker knew the address of her daughter’s school.
It was shocking: Sabrina eventually discovered that the stalker was her ex-boyfriend, who Sabrina thought was a “lovely” man, and had lived with Sabrina for one year.
Last night’s documentary featured one of her most heartbreaking stories, which was the first part in a series that will be televised in two parts.
Dooley followed the work of a helpline in Portsmouth and a specialist police unit in Cheshire, learning that one in five women have been subjected to stalking — as have one in ten men.
Over half of the UK’s murders of women are the result from stalking. Prior to the crime escalates, stalkers, which are often ex-partners, send intimidating messages to their victims.
50% of stalking cases involve a victim being terrorized by an ex-partner.
Sabrina was one of them. She initially refused to believe that the man she used to trust was responsible for the disturbing messages that kept her awake at night.
One of his late-night messages said, “You’re an awful piece of work.” “I wish your daughter does not grow up like you.”
TV investigation: Dooley followed the work of a helpline in Portsmouth and a specialist police unit in Cheshire, learning that one in five women have been subjected to stalking — as have one in ten men. Dooley filming Stalkers
One of the most alarming was a message that said: “So you blocked me?” You think you know where she went to school? Would you like to find out why I do this?
Sabrina began receiving messages from people about her trips, some with details she couldn’t have known without the help of the sender.
Sabrina became paranoid from the endless text messages. She even suspected that her family was involved at one stage. She stated, “I simply looked at everyone completely different.”
However, her stalker “slipped up”, she said, and she sent her an image of her house taken from the carpark at the pub across the street.
Sabrina became a detective, and she asked the landlord to provide CCTV.
Point turning: Sabrina told her stalker that Sabrina had’slipped-up’ one day and she sent her a picture of her house taken from across the street in the pub carpark. Sabrina became a detective and sought CCTV from the landlord of the pub. Stacey and Sabrina visiting the carpark of the pub.
“When I looked at that, I was able to see him,” she said. She said, “I saw my ex.” “It broke my heart when I saw it. My entire world was just about to collapse.
“Everyone kept telling me it was probably him, but I didn’t stop saying it wasn’t, it wasn’t him. He was wonderful throughout the entire time. We just didn’t work out”.’
Sabrina’s ex-partner lived with Sabrina over a year. She was also ‘best of friends with her daughter’.
Sabrina was able to take another photograph from the same spot, just few nights after he had been arrested by police.
He has not been stopped by police interference.
Sabrina said, “He hasn’t been scared.” “He was arrested 3-4 times. It’s continuing.”
Relief: Sabrina later learned her ex had pleaded guilty, almost three years after the stalking started. He was finally sentenced for nine months.
Elle added, “This has forever changed me.” I have trouble sleeping. Cameras are up in our home. Every night, I look out of my window… This has been a full-on affair.
Sabrina found out that her ex had pleaded guilty three years later.
Smiley, she stated, “That feels good.” ‘It’s done. It feels like I can actually breathe.
Sabrina suffered another setback when Sabrina’s boss called her to let her know that her ex-husband had applied at their company for a job.
She exclaimed, “I just burst into tears,” “I have never ever cried more in my entire life.” My words couldn’t be spoken, and I could barely breathe.
It’s just another video game. It has absolutely destroyed me. I can’t do it. It’s impossible for me to do this anymore.
Viewers learned that Sabrina was sentenced to nine-months in prison, and she received a five years restraining or.
Sabrina received another punch when her boss called to tell her her ex-husband had applied for work at the company. Stacey was informed by her boss over the telephone.
Stacey Dooley, Stalkers: You can watch it on iPlayer