Fay, 79, (pictured) is a retired solicitor's clerk who divorced 29 years ago

Fay (pictured, aged 79) is an ex-solicitor’s clerk, who was divorced in 1989.

FAY, 79

The Dating Past

Following my divorce, I traveled the globe and had a couple of brief, but not lasting relationships. I dated one truly wonderful man, but I let it go because I wasn’t ready for commitment.

Online dating has been a nightmare for me. Covid hasn’t helped either.

Pre-Date Nerves?


With four adult children, and nine grandchildren, he divorced in 1989.

Current Role

Retired solicitor’s clerk.


An honest, reliable gentleman I feel at ease with. He’ll need to have a good sense of humour and be able to surprise me. I’m not looking for a boaster.

No, I’m a ‘people’ person and my first blind date sounded fun. I wasn’t familiar with London and was nervous about finding my way. I’d only told my daughter I was taking part. It was something I kept secret from everyone.

First Impressions

Good. Derek was smartly dressed in a smart blazer with trousers. He certainly seemed like a gentleman. Derek arrived quickly and I came first.

It’s easy to talk with?

It was indeed a blur. We talked about what we’re doing in retirement — Derek enjoys bell ringing and has performed in 41 pantomimes, while I like tai chi, and I’m also kept busy by my nine grandchildren.

He walked me to my door and we’re having coffee tomorrow 

Derek continues to be involved with his metal sign business, which requires some work at 89. Both of us have wonderful, close-knit families. I was pleasantly surprised to discover that Derek lived only a few blocks from me in the Hampshire city.

What are embarrassing moments?


LIKED?Derek is a fascinating gentleman.

REGRETS? There is none.


None. Both of us agreed that it was a date we went on with open minds. Derek claimed that it was a challenge.

As for me, after Covid, I wanted to have fun — and the pampering involved in the photoshoot was an unexpected bonus.

Sparks Fly!

It felt natural for us to share a cab to Victoria and a train ride home, still talking and enjoying one another’s company. Derek is so close to me, he was kind and friendly. He walked right up to my house.

At our age, we’re looking for comfort and compatibility.

Seen him again?

Yes, absolutely. Already, we have made arrangements to meet for coffee tomorrow.

How do you imagine he felt about you?

I hope you have nice and kind thoughts. It was never dull. The conversation was easy from the very beginning.

Is he a good fit for your family?

Yes, absolutely — there is nothing not to like about Derek.

Derek, 89, (pictured) who widowed in 2013, is retired but still involved in his business

Derek, 89 (pictured), who was widowed in 2013 is now retired and still works in his company


The Dating Past

I haven’t come across the right person since I lost my wife. In our 30s, we met at Waterloo. We were then married for 45 years.

In my 20s, I shared a cottage in Windsor with my brother — a lot of young ladies were constantly in and out. We had fantastic times and it’s likely why I married late.


In 2013, he was remarried with six grandchildren, two boys and a girl.

Current Role

I am still actively involved in the metal sign industry, even though I have retired.


You do not need to be a warship commander. I’m not looking for a carer or a nursemaid.

Pre-Date Nerves?

My unusual selection of National Service was being among the few to receive training as a pilot for the RAF. My pilot training was in Meteor Jets, and the nerves that I experienced just prior to the flight were the exact same ones I had when I flew solo my first Meteor jet.

First Impressions

Fay already was seated, so I wish that I arrived earlier. Her attire was very attractive, with a navy top and skirt.

It’s easy to talk with?

Fay and me had a hard time hearing each other because the restaurant was very noisy. To hear our order, even the waitress needed to bend down. My conversation went smoothly, however.

We were both saddened by the lack of wakefulness in our world.

Are You Embarrassed by These Moments?

As nervous as I was when I flew solo with the RAF, I felt just as anxious. 

One, after I had washed my hands at the men’s place. My trousers were wetened by water from the little basin.


LIKED?Fay is very attractive.


CAB OR COFFEE? We had coffee at the second meetup.

‘Yes, it does tend to do that,’ explained a young man, who was waiting for his turn.

Sparks Fly!

Fay seemed surprisingly beautiful to me. Most likely, she thought that I spoke too much about myself.

You can see them again.

I ordered a taxi to take both of us to the station, then accompanied Fay to her front door as she had no desire to walk home alone at night; I can’t say I blame her. Already, we are planning to have a cup of coffee.

You wonder what she thinks of you.

As a litmus-test, it would be possible for the paper to have changed slightly from red. That’s a good sign.

Do you think your family would like her?

Fay would probably get along with me and my family. However, I might have asked her more about her family. Would they accept an older person in their circle who is decrepit?

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