“I should be allowed to live in a loving family”: 18-year-old woman wants her friend, to adopt her. She feels she is the odd one out in her family and is calling for a change in law to allow adult adoptions

  • Woman, 18, from Hull, claims she has always been ‘the odd one out in her family’
  • She is currently campaigning to change the law to allow adult adoption.
  • Adopts her friend and believes she’should be allowed’ to find a loving home.

An 18-year-old woman is campaigning for a change in law which would allow adults to be adopted.

The anonymous woman, from west Hull, claims she has always been ‘the odd one out in her family’, which she says has led to various mental health issues.

She wants her friend to adopt her and believes she ‘should have the right’ to a loving family home – just like everyone else.

The woman claims that as a result of a difficult relationship with her family – who she no longer lives with – she faces many self-esteem issues.

An 18-year-old woman (pictured), from west Hull, is campaigning for a change in law which would allow adults to be adopted

An 18-year old woman from Hull is fighting for a change of law that would allow adults to adopt.

While seeking help after leaving her family home, the woman met a new friend, in her 40s, who she says has become a ‘key’ motherly figure in her life and wants her to adopt her.

Unfortunately, her adoption wishes can’t be granted because adoption in the UK is not allowed for children below the age of 18.

The government website states: ‘To be adopted, a child must be under the age of 18 when the adoption application is made, or not be (or have never been) married or in a civil partnership.

Current adoption guidelines in the UK – from the child being under the age of 18 to both birth parents normally having to consent


A child must meet the following requirements to be adopted

– Be under 18 years of age when you apply for adoption

– Not to be (or have never) married or in a civil partner

The child’s birth parents


They cannot be found

– they’re incapable of giving consent, for example due to a mental disability

– The child’s safety and well-being would be at risk if they weren’t adopted

Who can adopt a child?

– You may be able to adopt a child if you’re aged 21 or over (there’s no upper age limit) and either:

– Single

– Married

– in a civil partner

– A married couple with the same sex (and opposite sex)

– the partner of the child’s parent 

Source: GOV.UK 


‘Both birth parents normally have to agree (consent) to the adoption, unless they cannot be found, they’re incapable of giving consent, for example due to a mental disability, or the child would be put at risk if they were not adopted.’

The woman is now pleading for change and wants people to sign the petition to change UK laws surrounding adoption.

Speaking about her relationship with her friend, she explained: ‘She has been looking out for me and I want her to adopt me.

I told her, “I wish you could adopt my baby” and she agreed. I told her about how it would be nice to have a second family who can love me better.

“She said, “I would take care of you.” She felt sorry for me and has always acted as family. I want to feel like I belong to a family that fits, instead of being the odd one in the family.

‘I was neglected in my teenage years so it has affected my self esteem. I am too different from my family. My outer family and closer family are strained.

‘It would be nice to have a proper family in my life because my brothers are awful to me and my family are strange. I am the odd one out. They don’t get it. I am outgoing and outgoing.

‘Even though I am an independent and an adult I need a second family, and deserve to have a proper family like everyone else.’

The woman is now pushing for people to back the parliament petition allowing people aged 18 and over to be adopted.

The petition reads: ‘The Government should give adults the right to be lawfully adopted by the people they regard as their parents.

‘Adoption shouldn’t be reserved for children in their adolescent years. Parenthood extends after the age of eighteen and this should be recognised in adoption law.’

The woman needs 10,000 signatures to get the government to respond to the petition, and 100,000 to be up for debate in parliament.