A high-flying events manager who quit alcohol after a decade of daily drinking left her struggling to get out of bed has revealed why going on a summer holiday is actually more fun without the booze.

Melissa Lionnet, who lost control of her alcohol relationship and quit her job in a high-ranking position to teach others the health benefits of being teetotal.

In an Instagram post, “It’s not me, it’s booze,” the 33-year old Sydneysider wrote that there was once when she would have been ‘wasteful’ while on vacation, but that she found herself enjoying life more sober. 

She wrote, “I would always leave a holiday feeling like I needed another vacation to heal,”

“When I looked at the pros and cons of drinking during this trip, there were more cons.

Ms Lionnet (pictured in Bali in 2019) started drinking at the age of 15 and quickly developed a toxic relationship with alcohol

Ms Lionnet today, completely sober

Left, Ms Lionnet in Bali, 2019, and right (almost two years sober by 2021). She began drinking when she was 15 and soon developed an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

They included being sick the next morning on the drive home, feeling anxious about work the Monday after it ended and not producing any results once the holiday had finished.⁠ 

“I would not have helped Andy unpack his car. I would have eaten poorly all week. Not exercised. Lost confidence. Wouldn’t have been there with my mum or friends.  

Daily Mail Australia previously interviewed Ms Lionnet regarding her problematic relationship with alcohol. This began in the tender age at 15.

Her grandmother raised her and she told them that alcohol was an escape for her when she started to feel depressed and had suicidal thoughts.

As many teens, Ms. Lionnet began drinking with her friends but soon realized she was the drunkest person at every party. 

She stated, “At the time it seemed perfectly normal, it was enjoyable because everyone was doing this,”

The sobriety coach (pictured with a glass of alcohol-free wine in 2021) quit drinking after more than a decade of abusive consumption

After more than 10 years of abuse, the sobriety coach quit drinking (pictured in 2021 with a glass alcohol-free wine)

These five reminders will keep you sober.

Drinking alcohol increases your risk of getting drunk. 

1. Reduce the function of your executive mind and listen to your primal. You are an animal looking for the next height.

2. It doesn’t matter what you are offered, as long as you reach your goal. 

3. Your body feels hot and cold. Your vision is blurred. You can’t talk because your mouth is dry. Your body may not be working as it should, but you still need to get there.

4. Because you crave connection, and make inappropriate calls all day, and engage in inappropriate conversation at any hour of the night,

5. You are powerless, and you lose control. Then you lose who you are and turn into someone who cares only about that peak.

Source: It’s not Me! It’s Booze

When she began working as a hostess, her drinking habits became more severe. She was offered a job as an event manager and continued to schmoozing with clients at functions like the Melbourne race.

“I used to entertain people all the time and that always involved alcohol,” she said.

‘But when it’s part of the job you don’t see it as a problem – that was just my normal, feeling like s**t for four days a week.’

Ms. Lionnet explained that her partner left her to cope with her increasing erratic mood swings. She also said she was indecisive, depressed, and low self-esteem. However, her performance at work continued.

Ms Lionnet (pictured in 2021) believes your sober journey begins from the moment you start reassessing your relationship with alcohol

Ms. Lionnet, pictured in 2021. She believes that your sobriety journey starts when you begin to reevaluate your alcohol-related relationships.

Ms. Lionnet was tired of living in self-loathing for years and had trouble getting out of bed. She decided to make a change with alcohol.

A 30-day detox challenge was offered to her in 2019, which gave her the opportunity to live a happy, healthy life.

“It gave me back so much clarity,” she stated. She added: “I believe your sober journey starts from the time you begin to think about changing your alcohol relationship.”

Ms. Lionnet tried these programs for over a year and always went back to her bottle once the challenge was finished.

Although she appeared to be in complete control of her own life from the outside, the truth was quite different. 

Ms Lionnet (back row, second from left) credits sober social media groups which have provided her with an online community of like-minded alcohol-free friends (pictured) for keeping her on track over the past 18 months

Ms Lionnet (back row, second from left) credits sober social media groups which have provided her with an online community of like-minded alcohol-free friends (pictured) for keeping her on track over the past 18 months

She said, “I would stumble home” and that he would have to drag me from the garden or put me on the sofa.

“He was the one who saw me for what I truly was. He finally said, “I don’t want to marry you. I can’t care for your child.”

“It forced me to realize that I do not want to be that person.”

She was only able to completely let go of her alcohol dependence when she began to educate herself on the effects that excessive drinking can have on the body.

Drinking alcohol can cause damage to your liver, heart, and brain. It also causes digestive problems that are caused by large amounts acidic drinks.

Also, it has been proven to reduce the quality of sleep. People who consume alcohol shortly before bedtime often feel restless and fatigued the next day.

The top 3 tips of a former drinker for quitting alcohol 

1. Get connected to the sober community

“This can all be done in any way that works for you but you must be reaching out to people and talking to them, whether they are AA, local support groups, or online forums,” said Ms Lionnet.

2. Find out more about alcohol

Ms. Lionnet says that she has remained positive about her decision to stop relapsing by learning more about the effects of alcohol on the body.

Holly Whitaker’s book “Quit Like A Woman”, and Annie Grace’s book “Annie’s Naked Mind”, are books that she recommends.

3. Simultaneous Self-Discovery

Ms. Lionnet thinks you must understand the reasons you drink if you wish to quit.

She said, “You must find out which experiences caused you to drink and then resolve them.”

You can do this through therapy or participating in alcohol-free trials. 

Source: It’s not me, it’s the booze

Experts say binning the booze for just one month can transform your health, provided the temporary abstinence leads to a more moderate and mindful approach to drinking in the long run.

Dietitians and fitness coaches promise even short periods without alcohol will improve memory, mental clarity and sleep, as well as promoting weight loss and reducing pressure on the liver which starts to cleanse itself just one hour after your last drink.

According to doctors, abstaining for as short as one month from alcohol can improve concentration and decision making and reduce the chance of developing mental disorders such as anxiety or depression.

Ms. Lionnet can attest to that, and claims that both her and her clients’ clarity has improved in the space of weeks.

“People are more confident in themselves and make faster, better decisions. They also trust their instincts far more than when they drink,” she stated.