One mother asked her son if she would leave her children and go to live with her father.
A mother of a almost two-year-old boy, she discussed the subject on Mumsnet in Britain.
She shared her thoughts in a post.
Her schedule that includes working from 8am-5pm every day and being primary caregiver for the child means she feels’stressful’ and ‘rushed’ all week. She also said she isn’t enjoying her life at this moment.
The mother is believed to reside in the UK. She has now spoken about her parenting challenges and how she feels that her toddler throws tantrums make it difficult for her (stock image).
The mother has felt stressed and overwhelmed by her role as primary caregiver, working almost all day. She also feels like she is ‘not enjoying her life’.
Mother exhausted said her son never slept through the night. She also stated that she has only ever gotten three hours of uninterrupted sleep.
Also, during the day, she is constantly being asked for her attention. He can even throw tantrums if she fails to respond.
She noted that he is different from his father in this regard. “Only me.
Her post ended with the following: “I gave it thought, and believe it would be better for us both if he lived with my Dad.
‘I would of course still see my son, I’m not suggesting I never see him again.
“I feel that spending time with him just a couple of times each week is better than having him live with me as I feel.
“I do not want to harm my son but I feel that I’m just not adapting to being the mother I really wanted to be.”
Nearly all of the responses were supportive, with parents sharing their struggles and opening up about how they care for young children.
A number of respondents suggested that the poster could have post-natal depressive disorder. Some others opened up to share their experiences.
Many respondents believed the poster might have Post Natal Depression (PND). One wrote: “When I felt similar feelings about my firstborn, I experienced crippling PND. I thought I wasn’t supposed to be a mother and was in complete denial that it could be PND.
“I received help, and I can’t imagine my life without my baby boy and newborn. You might need help even though you believe you don’t.
One added, “I think this could also be unresolved PND. You should talk to your GP to determine if you want to quit. Consider consulting a sleep specialist, if possible. You might find it not too costly and worth the investment for your mental health.
Another wrote, “Sounds like PND. I was the one I used to tell my spouse all the time that she was happier with him than if we parted!” I was not able to get anything with my GP but my health care provider was fantastic!
Others, however, revealed they have their own phases where they don’t like their kids – but consider this a part of parenthood.
Other people admitted they have had times when they didn’t like their kids. Some felt guilty, while others said that it is a completely normal feeling.
One replied, “This was me during half-term. My son is seven years old!” Although I love him dearly, there have been times when he was not my favorite.
“It’s normal. But the problem with your sleep needs to be fixed. This will make you feel much better and help you cope.
Another was more explicit, saying: ‘And two year olds are generally a********. Unrelenting dictators. You are not the only one.
One poster added that the toddler years were difficult. Does your dp [darling partner]Need some help? He sounds like someone who needs your help.
The main problem for most respondents was sleep deprivation. A number of commentators labeled it “torture” and stated that the mother would probably feel happier if she could get more rest.
Numerous forum participants discussed how sleep deprivation was torture. Many users agreed that the post’s lack of sleep and schedule is irrelevant to her feelings about her son.
Mumsnetter stated that you need to take a vacation. Are there parents that could take him on a weekend? Your partner could take care of him while you are away, allowing you to have some time off. It’s relentless and exhausting. Ask others for help.
Another added: ‘I don’t think it’s PND. I think you’re absolutely worn out. You can’t think clearly and be rational on such a short amount of sleep. I often think that if new mums were able to sleep more, there’d be far fewer cases of PND diagnosed. His dad should take him. You go to a hotel to just rest. No one will be harmed, you’ll start to feel like your old self and things will feel easier all round.’
Another poster stated that “Also being kept from sleeping is used as torture. So no surprise it drives you mad.”